Hello again, my retrogirls,
It’s been a while, I know, but the thing is, if you checked my blog now, you can see that I decided to make some changes, and eventually I had to delete a lot of my previous posts, because I wanted to include or mention them in my book. So, even though it’s been 4-5 years now since I started this blog, you won’t be able to find all my old posts there, anymore, unfortunately. This time I will include love in my post, but different kind of love. Love towards people around us. I hope that this time will be more of my readers who are actually done dealing with toxic persons, and later on, we will mention them again, maybe even in my next post. If you don’t know what I am talking about check one of my previous posts https://retrogirl640.wordpress.com/2020/02/21/freedom-from-tr/ or long story- short: RUN from that person. Corona extended her stay here, I am referring to it as a female, since all catastrophic events got female names, so, why not even Corona, BUT it brought all bad things with it, and one of the topics I will cover today is something that too many people is dealing with, and that is- depression.
It is not that depression didn’t exist before, but not as much as nowadays, and it was never ignored as much as now. Depression is characterized by persistent sadness and a lack of interest or pleasure in previously rewarding or enjoyable activities. When someone tells you that they are depressed, don’t ask why, but tell them everyday that you love them and that you care about them. World became so violent. When I say violent, I don’t necessarily think of physical force, also natural destructive force, like mental/emotional abuse or any other kind of abuse, because nowadays it is cool to be rude, mean and offensive.
Start from yourself, your mood is changing daily, maybe even more often, you are going through your own battles everyday, so as everyone else. People have tendency to think that no one have bigger problems, but they do. Every problem has their own weight and yours won’t be less heavy if you mistreat someone else. In terms of relationships, you had a heartbreak and you become emotionless, you believe that you are lit now because of it? No, this is not your strength, that is your weakness. Strength is to show emotions again, even if they were not appreciated previously. Strength is believing that you have power to raise again after being down. Being cold means walking down and being satisfied with it. In terms of life in general, how many suicides nowadays? How many sad people? How many good pictures on instagram hiding reality? How many parties just enjoyed on stories? How many comparations between people? Why so much dissatisfaction? Bipolar disorders?
Unfortunately, we became so materialistic, this is our reality now. Let’s not lie to ourselves, material goods we need for surviving, that’s normal, but we are too focused on it, we don’t care too much about anything else. Until one moment, when you see someone close to you sick or dead, then we lie to ourselves that health is most important thing for few days, and then we go back to our daily marathon for material pleasure.” Materialism is a form of philosophical monism that holds that matter is the fundamental substance in nature, and that all things, including mental states and consciousness, are results of material interactions.”
That sentence that you can find in almost every post of mine is “God will not give you more than you can handle.” and I firmly believe that, BUT not everyone is born with strong character/personality to know how to deal with any situation that occurs in life. That’s why we have family, friends, even organizations that take care of people with labile mentality. Talk to your parents, talk to friends, to your boyfriend, girlfriend, brother, sister, be present, let’s stop this selfishness for a while, and become more aware of what’s happening around us. Let’s make those around us talk more about what’s happening, what bothers whom, it won’t happen every time that you will have something to say, but at least you can ease someone’s conscious by just listening to them.
Are you aware by kicking someone while they’re down, or ignoring the fact that you can do something and you don’t means that your emotional intelligence is not developed and you have no empathy which can lead to more serious mental issues- like becoming a psychopath, killer, or any other heavy mental disorder?
For any change in the World, we got to start from ourselves, be kind and talk, talk, talk with people around you. Our physical appearance is something that will disappear with our age, but our inner beauty will be there. Let’s take care of that. We can do a lot by just being kind. We can change mindset of people around us. If you want to know more about emotional intelligence, feel free to email me (in contact form listed below) and I will send you some books in PDF form, let’s work on ourselves for ourselves and people around us.
Let’s stop this agony and let’s be remembered by good.
My ladies, you know that elegance is not being noticed, it is being remembered.
Have a pleasant evening,